Words and thoughts from a 60 or so ( the "so" shall remain a mystery) year old grandmother...."living in the sandwich" refers to the our life situation...caring for parents, still worrying about children and now grandchildren....we are in the middle...and sometimes the middle gets squeezed! :)
Monday, December 29, 2008
This Old House!
Now that Greg and Amy are back in town they have decided to live in Gran and Papa's old house. It will be a win-win situation for all of us. The house will have someone in it that will take care of it and they will have a nice home for a couple of years with cheap rent. The house was built by Papa about sixty years ago for around $7000. He used cross ties from from the railroad for the foundation. Yes....this house was built upon a rock! And if you knew Papa you know there is some creative wiring going on....but it is a solid house....and he was mighty proud of it. They had a couple of add-ons through the years and now it is very comfortable white frame house with gold shutters sitting on an oak covered lot.
When Gran was alive she was meticulous. She had lovely fancy things and her taste could be seen through out the house. She loved pink... she loved roses. In their formal living room there was this unusual 100% wool carpet with pink roses. Pink roses were in cut glass rose bowls and the walls revealed pink rose pictures and various hand painted china....with pink roses. It was the fancy room... the room we really only visited during holidays for the big family meal. Gran was the perfect hostess for Martha Stewart-like meals down to her organdy starched apron. But then....Gran's brain began to deteriorate... her memories, her sense of logic and reasoning began to slip away until there was just a shell of the woman we once knew. Alzheimer stole her thoughts and her personality.
The last few years the house was sorely missing the touch of a woman. Gran was unable to attend to the most menial of tasks....and Papa....well, Papa was a man....clueless to the touches that a woman makes to create a home from an ordinary house. Later Papa lived in the house alone when Gran was in the nursing home. Gradually the home became neglected and lonely. After Gran died Papa moved out to assisted living....and the lonely house was abandoned. As the young couple that built the house grew old and changed....the house itself seemed to mirror what was occurring in life. Houses have life!
Hull House was alive and growing as the young family grew. The yard was full and green and lush. Lights shone bright from the windows...and family pets barked in the backyard. Projects were always going on in the garage and activity surrounded the house. Good smells came from the kitchen and music filled the air. As the young couple grew old...so did the house. The paint peeled. Solid boards began to split and crack. The plumbing weeped. The once beautiful rose carpet faded. Musty oders penetrated the senses. Hull House was alone, broken and in mourning. Closets held left over memories from the past....old photos, scrapbooks and cards....memories held in a shoebox.
Then the young granddaughter and her new husband decided to move into the old Hull House. They giggled as they cleaned and painted the walls. You could almost hear the Hull House cheer! She soaked up the paint like a thirsty traveler in much need of nourishment. You could almost imagine her stretching and yawning after a long hibernation nap. The windows glowed once again. Music accompanied the fresh paint smell with a touch of lemon oil. New colors updated the walls. New style and rearranged furniture created new life in the rooms. Hull House hugged these newlyweds and will be a good home for them to begin new life. She is smiling once again anticipating the future of this young couple in love.
And....so goes life in the sandwich!
Thursday, December 25, 2008
December happenings....
It is Christmas day....all is quiet. Unbelievable! It has been an upside down, topsy turvy year. The holidays have been backwards too....but it fits the way the year has gone. Jim and I anticipated December would be crazy. To accommodate the craziness we put the tree and decorations up before we left for Colorado at Thanksgiving knowing there would not be another opportunity. Even though we thought we were prepared for the chaos...we are pooped! We are getting too old for all this running around and partying! :)
December started with going to Katie's house and getting baby Emma's room ready. Jim worked ever spare second on refinishing old bedroom furniture from his mom's house. He is a perfectionist which can be annoying but in cases like refinishing furniture it comes in handy. It turned out beautiful. Katie bought new updated and fun handles and knobs...the result...gorgeous, updated, solid baby furniture. We arrived with Andy's truck full of furniture and I took my box of paints to create Katie's perfect vision of her baby's room. We got there late Friday night. Charles helped us unload the furniture. We got up early Saturday morning and just got busy. I painted from about 9 in the morning until aroun 1:30 am. I could hardly walk the next day.....or the next week....but the end result was worth it. On Sunday we pulled the room together...with a few finishing touches. We attended church with the kids and then on to the church baby shower for Katie and Emma. It was lovely....and now all is ready for Miss Emma's arrival.
The following weekend we jumped in the car on Friday and headed west to Abilene. Amy and Greg were graduating for physical therapy school. They are now Dr. Amy and Dr. Greg Johnson! Seems unbelievable....but WOO HOO! We attended a banquet on Friday night and graduation on Saturday. They both received awards. Greg's parents, Jim and I hosted a bar-b-que at my brother's house to celebrate. The kids are exhausted....and so ready to finally have a life together. They have not lived alone together in a house since they married in May. With clinicals they have lived out of their suitcase and on the road for almost the entire year. They are tired....and ready to live a normal life....with ruts and routines.
THEN...last weekend it was already time for our family Christmas! After celebrating we brought mother home with us for a few days. SO in between all the celebrating there was shopping and cooking.....AND....not to mention another wrinkle in all the goings on....Amy had bought Greg a chocolate lab puppy for Christmas but until she could give it to him....guess who became puppy grandparents? Yep...a few vet bills later...we can claim part ownership! :) OH...and if that wasn't enough excitement for December....throw in a Texas tornado for fun! The first ever tornado hit Denison in December! It tore through town leaving behind devestation......just left a trail.....then moved on. We were blessed and slept right through it but others were not so lucky.
SO...here I am on Christmas Day...and it is quiet. I am grateful! Amy and Greg took Mom home and they are having Christmas with his parents. I insisted! :) Katie and Charles can't travel too far from home so they are celebrating alone together in anticipation of a baby any day now. Andy and Bobbie will celebrate with Shelby this morning and then come over for lunch....lasnaga! Then we might go to the movies later...if we feel like it! I think it sounds like a heavenly day. It has been a year of weddings, funerals, graduations and babies. We have been richly blessed and I am beyond grateful.
The new year is full of promise. Amy and Greg will live here for two years. Emma Grace will arrive and hopefully life will settle down a bit. I know there will be valleys to travel through...but the valleys seem to make those mountain top moments sweeter. Certainly, you appreciate them more. We are still living in the sandwich....it has shifted a bit this year....but we are still getting squeezed! AND.....loving each moment of it.
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